It is our 8th monthsary!! How time flies. Speaking of which, Ramadhan is coming! Our first together. Exciting kaper?!
Marriages has its ups and downs. The downs don’t just mean when you and your partner argue. It includes when a loved one gets sick, or when one loses their job. These downs are usually what makes couples stronger, especially when they work things out together and they support each other throughout the ordeal.
With that aside, couples do argue. It is the way you go about doing it, that is important. Me and a couple of friends were talking about the best way to avoid prolonging an argument.
We agreed that talking is the best way to settle things. I understand the dilemma of guys when girls merajok and yet she do not want to tell him what was wrong. Guys are not mind readers. Girls, we have to tell them how we feel. I am guilty of this. I expect him to know what he did wrong. Unfair right? Hehe. As much as possible I will try to speak my mind.
Sometimes when both are angry, talking can be quite difficult. This is what I do. When I am upset, he will either hug me or I will get him to hug me. While in his embrace, I will cry and tell him everything. This does not only work for when we are upset, but also when I feel sad about something and just want him to listen to my problems.
There are many other things I could talk about, like don’t get a third party involved when you are arguing with your spouse, or don’t raise your voice, don’t go and find another person to talk about your problems, especially not someone of the opposite sex.
But today, all I am gonna say is, a hug is a powerful tool. Hugs make you feel happy, feel loved, feel safe and secure, feel protected and that everything is gonna be okay.
Through my 8 months experience of being married, marriage is a wonderful thing. We don’t get angry about little things, we joke alot, we say sorry as soon as possible, we don’t blame one another and most importantly, we remind each other of how much we love and care for each other. We hug when we say goodbye, we hug when we meet, we hug when we sleep, we hug while watching a movie, we hug while watching a Youtube video on his phone. Make the little things counts.
Being a great wife is the easiest ticket to Jannah, in sha Allah. So let’s put our emo aside and be the awesomest wives ever! Hehe!